Learn why people trust wikiHow. Download Article Explore this Article methods. Related Articles. Article Summary. Method 1. All rights reserved. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc. Confide in a loved one. Although it can be difficult, it can help to find a supportive person in your life who will be a good listener, like your parents, a favorite teacher, or other loved ones.
When young people are hurting because of their relationships with their peers, they should confide in supportive adults. Feeling like you are heard and understood can help make you feel better.
Diversify your social options. Often when a person is a social outcast in one place, like in school, that person will be accepted in other places, like on a sports team. Doing multiple extracurricular activities that you like will give you more opportunities to make friends. It may even be easier to make friends through extracurricular activities because you will find other kids who share your interests.
Focus on your interests. Then focus on having fun and fostering your interests instead of just on making friends. Through participating in extracurricular activities that you like, you will gain a sense of passion and purpose.
Doing something you like and that you eventually become good at will raise your self-esteem. People with self-esteem are attractive to others, so learning to value yourself will help you to make friends. Seeking out people your age who share your interests is easier today than ever before.
Look for web pages and clubs devoted to your interests. Just be sure to use the internet responsibly and with parental supervision. Start small. Focus on making just one new friend to start. Having just one close friend has been shown to strengthen children's connectedness to school and to boost their self esteem. One good friend is better than having ten acquaintances. After you've spoken to the potential friend enough that you are friendly acquaintances, invite the person to do something with you.
This can be scary at first, but that is the only way to turn an acquaintance into a friend. Recognize that the end of a friendship is not failure. Relationships change constantly during the course of a person's life. It is not a failure. Accept that some friends will leave your life, but that creates an opening for you to make new friends.
Remain dignified and polite. Although it is normal for friendships to end, the way you end a friendship matters. The way you act toward people who are not your friends but who ostracize you also matters.
Be the more mature person. No matter what your former friends are doing, or how cold or exclusive they become, avoid angry exchanges. In fact, do not to put much energy into the broken friendship or the people excluding you. Move on and shift your focus to all that is going right in your life, such as the new friendships and activities that help you feel good about yourself. Resist obsessive FOMO fear of missing out behavior online. Spending a lot of time on social media, constantly reading other people's updates and obsessing about all of the fun things people are doing without you can lead to unhealthy FOMO fear of missing out.
Your peers may not be as happy as they say they are. And even if they are, their happiness does not mean you cannot be happy also. Realize that virtual "likes" and "friends" are not the same thing as in-person friendships. You can be much happier with only a few good, real-life friends in your life than a person who has thousands of online followers.
Disengage from unhealthy relationships on social media until you feel better. Instead, use the time you would have spent online to try new activities, focus on your interests, and make new friends in real life. Be careful about what you post online.
Resist the urge to post unkind things about the people who are ostracizing you. Again, be the better person, and focus on your interests and potential new social groups than on the people who are excluding you. Don't take everything personally.
The people excluding you may not realize that they are making you feel like a social outcast. Unless someone is actively mean to you, do not assume that he or she has malicious intentions toward you. Sometimes not getting invited to something is just an oversight. Maybe that person will become your friend. It gets better. Most social exclusion happens during adolescence, and most cliques disappear by the end of high school.
Life gets better, and you will not always be a social outcast. Stay positive, and know that you are not alone. Stay true to yourself. Do not let what is "popular" discourage you from following your passions and from being your wonderful, unique self. True friends will respect your independence and unique personality. Do not do anything you are uncomfortable doing just to make people like you. Be a good friend. People who enjoy true and lasting popularity are those who are good friends, whether they have one friend or one hundred friends.
College is just another substitute for the hell that high school was. People are still in cliques in college. The same people that were popular in high school are popular in college. Popular people crowd out everyone else. This point builds off the last point. Not everyone is invited to parties. The idea is also connected to the concept of popularity in college. Not everyone is included when it comes to parties. That is hardly just since that just encourages the same old status quo that happened in high school.
Eating alone or bringing cafeteria food back to your dorm is a coping mechanism. In college a person can definitely bring food back to their dorm if they have no one to eat with it. It certainly saves some humiliation. Outcasts do not bring their problems on themselves. Feeling invisible and insignificant is something that no person should ever feel. Having a better attitude is no guarantee. The idea sounds good in theory! People are not really as open minded as they pretend to be.
It is unfortunate. A lot of people seem to tout a no judgment policy but the cold harsh truth is that people make judgments everyday. It just happens. Friends ditch their friends. It sounds daunting and cruel.
But it happens all the time. People and dynamics change and suddenly a person could lose friends. Some friends trade up or ditched old friends. Tom: Why? Joe: I don't want to be a social outcast like you. Hipsters, artists and geeks who are missunderstood by the preppy mainstream. Often these people find smaller sub groups with much tighter friendships and bonds. Usually they make choices that are considered risky , but are often trend setting.
The entire team at Vice magazine, Lady GaGa , most of the 'real mufukas' you know all were likely social outcasts at one point.
Someone who is rejected from the majority, or all of the social groups in an area. You will probably insult them and hurt their feelings, but sometimes they're so damn annoying you hope you do! Sometimes they turn out OK if you get to know them, but other times, as I said before, they're just annoying. A social outcast is somebody who is not involved in social events and spends way to much time doing a "hobby".
Hacking computers, dealing drugs, trying to make friends over the internet or mabye playing tennis with "mummy".
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